Hello everyone, here’s a story that’s bound to leave you scratching your head. Picture this: you’re excitedly opening a wedding invitation, only to find out you’ve been invited with a pretty big catch. This very situation happened to Reddit user “EdenCapwell,” who shared her shocking experience on the “r/WeddingShaming” and “r/AmIWrong” subreddits on July 11.
So, what’s the catch? Well, when EdenCapwell and her husband received their invitation, a little note fell out. At first, she was over the moon, saying, “I love weddings.” But when she finally read the note, her excitement turned into utter disbelief.
The note stated that while her husband was invited to the wedding and reception, she was expected to help babysit all the children in a separate room with several other female invitees. Yes, you heard that right.
The shock didn’t end there. EdenCapwell also discovered that both she and her husband would need to pay $100 each for their meals, with a link provided to pay when they RSVP’d.
She wrote, “I’d be pretty useless to prevent a fall or stop a child from choking,” mentioning that she’s disabled and relies on oxygen and mobility aids. Plus, she’s been friends with the soon-to-be-married couple since childhood, making the situation even more hurtful.
Her husband kindly offered to watch the kids so she could attend the wedding, but the invitation specifically mentioned only female invitees for babysitting duty. Feeling “gobsmacked” and offended, EdenCapwell turned to Reddit for advice.
The Reddit community didn’t hold back. Many users echoed her feelings of being wronged. An etiquette expert, Rosalinda Randall, told Fox News Digital that EdenCapwell was right to feel upset. “Receiving a wedding invitation that includes instructions, duties, and a link to a payment plan is not an invitation,” Randall said. “It is a job post that they have assumed you’ll accept.”
Randall offered several options for handling the situation: EdenCapwell could choose not to attend the wedding at all but send a gift with a nice card, decline the babysitting duty and pay for the meals to enjoy the event, or attend only the ceremony and quietly leave afterward.
Reddit users also had their own takes, with one commenter calling the invitation “the tackiest thing I’ve ever heard of.” Others suggested humorous responses, like replying with her babysitting rates or leading the children in a wedding-crashing disruption.
In the end, it seems clear that this kind of invitation isn’t just unusual—it’s downright outrageous. As one Reddit user aptly put it, “Asking guests to provide free child care, pay for their meal, and give them a gift? Hell no.” Whether EdenCapwell decides to attend or not, this incident is a stark reminder that some wedding invitations come with far too many strings attached.
