Let’s talk about something that’s setting off all kinds of cultural fireworks: Coco Austin and Bunnie Xo are out here saying the quiet part loud — and unapologetically.
In a world where headlines scream empowerment, boss energy, and fierce independence, these two women are leaning into something far less trendy and way more old-school: being happily, confidently submissive in their relationships.
And it’s not about weakness — it’s about roles, identity, and, as Coco puts it, knowing how to “keep the house right.”
On Bunnie Xo’s “Dumb Blonde” podcast, Coco broke it all down. Long before she became Ice-T’s wife and the mother of his daughter, she was, in her own words, a party girl. But when she met the rapper-turned-actor on a music video set in 2001, that changed fast. The vibe? He was “very straight-laced,” and it turns out, he still is. And for Coco, that’s part of what makes their dynamic work.
She says Ice-T “has to be in control,” and she’s fine with that. Why? Because in their house, he handles the hustle, and she manages the home. That’s her domain. She creates the calm, the order, the peace — the kind of environment where her husband can walk in the door and take a breath.
It’s not about dominance; it’s about partnership. Intentional roles. Clear identities. And honestly? It sounds like they’ve cracked a code a lot of couples are still fumbling to figure out.
Now, it’s no secret that comments like “men want a woman to be submissive” set the internet on fire. Coco knows it — she even says she’s expecting hate for it. But she doesn’t back down. She points to the lasting success of her 23-year marriage and credits it to knowing her lane, respecting his, and not trying to blur the lines with slogans about not needing a man.
Bunnie backed her up without missing a beat. She’s just as strong-willed, just as independent — but she knows when to dial it back for her man. That’s not surrender; that’s strategy. She put it perfectly: “You can be independent and still be submissive for a person that you love.”
In an era where relationship advice is flying from every direction, Coco and Bunnie are reminding everyone that sometimes the secret isn’t reinventing the wheel — it’s remembering why the wheel worked in the first place. Let the man lead, they say, and don’t be afraid to lean into your feminine energy. Their message isn’t about going backwards — it’s about choosing what works for you, even if it’s not the fashionable take.
Whether you’re clapping, cringing, or rethinking your whole dynamic, one thing’s for sure: these women aren’t afraid to say what most people won’t. And for them, that honesty? It’s working.
